I made a mental note to look closer at Scary Mommy and answered, “Mmm, kind of. But different.”
What makes us different than the Scary Mommies and the Huff Parents and the NickMoms? Why do we say that Highly Offensive Mom is "not just another Mommy blog?"
Honestly, we have and are recruiting amazing writers, just like they do. We have writers who spend a significant time researching, and writers who simply write right off their cuff. We have funny writers and we have solemn writers. We all write about parenting. We all have a similar audience.
So how are we different?
What we love about Scary Mommy: they claim to be “a parenting website for imperfect parents” and we agree. Their articles create necessary discussions and debates, and sometimes challenge the way we think about things. Scary Mommy is one of our more favorite “mom communities”.
What makes us different: we take the discussions one step further by acknowledging that people parent differently than we do and encouraging others to embrace the concept that we can support each other, even if we disagree.
What we love about Huff Parents: Their articles tend to be well researched, which surely helps a parent to stress less, and they reach a large number of parents. We truly to do enjoy Huff Parents.
What makes us different: our passion for parenting is obvious in our writings. Many of our writers are not professionals, but rather parents who have expressed a desire to share their thoughts with a larger audience.
What we love about NickMom: they call themselves “motherfunny”, and they really are- but in a not-meant-for-children way. What started out as a raunchy 4 hour TV block on Nick Jr, NickMom is now mostly found online in photos and cartoons and short videos.
What makes us different: while we certainly have a funny bone, we have more than just a funny bone. The diversity of our writers allows us to take on the topics that make us laugh, cry...and everything in between.
“Supporting parents, even if they do things differently than we do”
At Highly Offensive Mom, we pride ourselves on the fact that we have writers who are wonderfully imperfect in such a way that they create necessary conversations like Scary Mommy, are on the same playing field with Huff Parents when it comes to research, and are funny like NickMom. We are the best of all three worlds (and then some) all rolled into one hot mess of offensiveness.
“But wait, there’s more!”
There’s more to the Highly Offensive Mom than research, discussion and humor. Our purpose. Highly Offensive Mom wasn’t created simply to fill a niche, provide information or make someone laugh. Those things are great and necessary and appreciated, for sure. But our purpose is different. Our purpose is to throw open our minivan doors and shout from the day care rooftops that it doesn’t matter HOW you parent! It doesn’t matter if you spanked your kids or if you didn’t. It doesn’t matter if you bottle fed or breastfed. It doesn’t matter if you told your children Santa wasn’t real from the very beginning or not! You may not have intended to ever be a parent. You might have meticulously planned every one of your 15 children. It doesn’t matter.
What matters, what truly and seriously matters, is that you make the conscious decision to parent your child. That we all stop judging one another and spend that energy focusing on raising the best kids possible, the best way we know or choose how.
That’s what we’re about. The fact of the matter is, it doesn’t matter if we admit to being imperfect parents. It doesn’t matter if we stress less or if we are funny. It doesn’t matter what kind of parents we are because someone is going to be offended by the choices we make. We are going to offend someone no matter what.
So, instead of defending ourselves, we’ve decided to embrace our offensiveness. We’ve decided to stand up and say “Parenting is offensive! And it’s okay! Do it anyway!!”
“The Big Difference”
The biggest difference? Money. Huff Parents and Nick Mom never had a funding issue, because they are backed by multi-million dollar franchises.
Scary Mommy, however, began as a blog and, in six years, has taken on a whole new meaning. With the support of their readers and friends, Scary Mommy was able to, in addition to all they already do, begin a 501(c)3 non-profit organization that helps less fortunate mommies feed their children at Thanksgiving. Scary Mommy epitomizes what can be done with the support of friends and family and their amazing readers.
Our goal is similar: to make a difference. But we need your help. We can make a big difference in our communities and in our own homes, but we can’t make something from nothing. We need you.
“What do you need money for?”
Currently, our entire staff is unpaid. We’ve worked hard for 6 months, starting with Many Kind Regards, and now developing Highly Offensive Mom, from simply a series of articles into a vibrant online community for parents who are tired of the "Mommy Wars." While volunteer work can be fulfilling, it doesn’t pay the bills.
The bills need to be paid- and not just ours. Developing a company isn’t cheap. Some of the things we need to do simply cannot be bartered for, like web design and website hosting, advertising and merchandise, legal fees and shipping costs. The phrase “you need money to make money” really is true. We don’t need much, in comparison to similar business pitches, but we do need some. Sure, we could take baby steps and take years to see the vision of the community come to fruition. But we see an immediate need; we have heard from parents like you who want a place where they can embrace all of their parenting choices, learn and support each other. With your help, we can all enjoy the launch of Highly Offensive Mom in just a few short months!
“How can I help?”
Please watch our short video, read about our project, and consider becoming a backer today. We’ll gratefully accept whatever you offer; every $1.00 helps us. AND- for as little as $10, you can start getting your very own Highly Offensive Mom swag. In the words of our very first backer, Rachel, “I needed to make sure I got my sticky pads and notebook. Never underestimate the power of swag.”
We agree and will add: Never underestimate the power of parents who simply want a place to learn, share and connect...without the fear of offending someone. Together, we can make it happen! Thank you for your support!