Article by: Ashley Heaton
It was late one night and I rolled away from my husband to respond to the buzz of my cell phone. I reached underneath my pillow and dimmed the brightness so it wouldn’t draw any attention. My heart was racing, as I silently unlocked my phone, it seemed as though those four digits were the code to a bomb. I was shaky and nervous as I opened the notification. A grin started to spread across my face as I read, four people started following you on Pinterest… OH YES!
It was late one night and I rolled away from my husband to respond to the buzz of my cell phone. I reached underneath my pillow and dimmed the brightness so it wouldn’t draw any attention. My heart was racing, as I silently unlocked my phone, it seemed as though those four digits were the code to a bomb. I was shaky and nervous as I opened the notification. A grin started to spread across my face as I read, four people started following you on Pinterest… OH YES!
In all seriousness, I feel like the pleasure and convenience of having smart phones and an assortment of technology at our fingertips has put a damper on romance. Instead of investing in each other with meaningful talks, fulfilling date-nights, and some great quality time, we are wrapped up in investing our time into Clans and Pins, Shares and Tweets. We have started to put online followers in front of families and let ourselves be sucked into the hoopla and left out of the home.
I personally found myself in a state where I felt my husband and I were staring at our phones more than looking into one another’s eyes. I felt distracted and he looked it, we both recognized the separation, but didn’t know what to do… And let me tell you it isn’t a fun place to be. So we made a few changes:
This allowed us to put down the distractions, and focus on one another and their company. It gave us back that quality time that we both needed and really got us talking again. I mean who even takes the time to have a chat on the phone or write a letter these days. Although I cherish the technology of skype and the ability to see family and friends across the globe, I miss the anticipation of seeing someone you haven’t seen in years. The slight or dramatic changes and the mystery about their lives and families.
I know I really didn’t have an affair, but emotionally I think that it was something close. I was letting something else entrap me and gain my attention instead of pouring it into my husband. But all that aside, I was lucky that my husband and I both realized there was something going on. And maybe that’s what it’s really all about, recognition. Recognizing that something is taking precedence in your marriage, then doing something about it!
Ashley Heaton is a talented vocalist and writer. For someone who is so in love with fairy tales, she spends most of her time writing her own. She was lucky enough to fall in love with her best friend; the boy down the road who always had her heart. That is what fuels her love for writing and passion for being a great SAHM. She has a silly sense of humor and loves to laugh at herself. She hopes some of her stories bless you as they have her.
I personally found myself in a state where I felt my husband and I were staring at our phones more than looking into one another’s eyes. I felt distracted and he looked it, we both recognized the separation, but didn’t know what to do… And let me tell you it isn’t a fun place to be. So we made a few changes:
- No phones in bed.
- A TV would never be installed in our bedroom.(We had always followed this rule, but we had talked about putting one in before.)
- We weren’t allowed to be on our phones during movie time or dinner
- On date nights only one phone was brought in case of emergency.
This allowed us to put down the distractions, and focus on one another and their company. It gave us back that quality time that we both needed and really got us talking again. I mean who even takes the time to have a chat on the phone or write a letter these days. Although I cherish the technology of skype and the ability to see family and friends across the globe, I miss the anticipation of seeing someone you haven’t seen in years. The slight or dramatic changes and the mystery about their lives and families.
I know I really didn’t have an affair, but emotionally I think that it was something close. I was letting something else entrap me and gain my attention instead of pouring it into my husband. But all that aside, I was lucky that my husband and I both realized there was something going on. And maybe that’s what it’s really all about, recognition. Recognizing that something is taking precedence in your marriage, then doing something about it!
Ashley Heaton is a talented vocalist and writer. For someone who is so in love with fairy tales, she spends most of her time writing her own. She was lucky enough to fall in love with her best friend; the boy down the road who always had her heart. That is what fuels her love for writing and passion for being a great SAHM. She has a silly sense of humor and loves to laugh at herself. She hopes some of her stories bless you as they have her.
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