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Want your stepfamily to succeed? Then, make sure you suck at blending.
‘To blend’ means to mix one thing with another until they are combined. ‘Blended’ conjures up images of the best banana smoothie you’ve ever tasted – with all the ingredients combined together in perfect taste-bud tantalising harmony. But successful stepfamilies know they may react more like a vinaigrette than a smoothie. With effort, oil and vinegar come together to enhance the taste of any green salad, but when left to settle they maintain their original identities forming individual but connected layers.
Trying to be a smoothie when you’re actually a vinaigrette can only lead to confusion, disappointment, frustration and – even worse – feelings of failure.
The reality is the term ‘blended family’ has no place in stepfamily life. ‘Blended’ in its true sense is not only unachievable but also extremely limiting for stepfamilies. In fact, avoiding the whole notion of blending is a sure fire way to help your stepfamily succeed.